X-Fish and Thoughts

**See updated weekend post. There should be a few good stories there.**

I have so much to write about this morning. You all should be really excited. I guess I should go in chronological order as to make sure everything makes sense.

Last night I hung out with Jim. We walked over to Petco and bought my two lovely fish: Juggernaut and Jubilee---my X-Fish. They are so friggin' cute! I named one Juggernaut, and he even has this cute little black "helmet". He is kind of a pig, he ate all of it before Jubilee could. Ah well...I love them. The tank looks so tight with it all lit up and everything.

After that, we ate pizza at the place on 86th and 2nd. And when I say "we ate pizza" I mean that Jim ate it and I just sat there. I wasn't hungry and my tummy was hurting. Then we went to our movie. We were seeing Stranger than Fiction. It was really really good. I suggest that you go and see it. Will Ferrell was really good in it and it was the first time I actually thought that Maggie Gyllenhall was remotely attractive. She was also really good and cute in it. Emma Thompson, was of course brilliant. One annoying thing though was that the movie theatre was FREEZING. I was like shaking in my boots (or shoes) the entire time. I mean, I know it's been warmer recently, but do we really need to keep the theatre at like 45 degrees? I think now. But---go see it. Then Jim walked me home and I told him we'd chat soon. Alas, this brings me to my next point.

In conclusion, I have to write about what's on my mind right now. It's Jim. I have been out with him several times, as you all know and I've spent significant time with him over the phone and things. I have been taking things slow with him b/c I didn't want to rush into things and also b/c I wasn't exactly sure how I felt about him. I had these crush like feelings about him, and I love talking to him and everything, but when push comes to shove. I really don't want to hook up with him. There isn't chemistry between us.

Problem: He likes me. I know it b/c he keeps wanting to hang out with me, blah blah....
I have to some how relay the message to him that I don't want to pursue anything serious or resembling a relationship where we will have to be hooking up. Read: friends. My co-worker Adam at work had the following advice for me. This is a conversation that we were having at work over IM. Names have been protected so that you don't actually know who Adam is. :)

07:45AM Lauren: i'm absolutely not attracted to him romantically. what do i do?
07:45AM Adam: what do you mean not attracted to romantically? isn't that the most important thing?
07:46AM Lauren: well, initially i thought i was.
07:46AM Adam: uh oh
07:46AM Lauren: when we first started hanging out.
07:46AM Adam: it's supposed to work the other way around
07:46AM Lauren: no---listen. i worded it wrong.
07:46AM Adam: ok then
07:46AM Lauren: ok---i like him a lot. but...i don't want to make out with him.
07:46AM Adam: is he not cute?
07:47AM Lauren: he's cute. actually. but----he just doesn't do it for me.
07:47AM Adam: does his personality and charm overwhelm this flaw
07:47AM Lauren: well, i was trying to figure that out....
07:47AM Adam: ha
07:48AM Adam: no point forcing anything, if its not there then its not there
07:48AM Lauren: and like---i've been in situations where i thought the guy was like "cute" before and then i got to know him more and then he got "hotter" but....i don't think this is one of those situations.
07:49AM Adam: well i think then you know what you should do, no point delaying the inevitable
07:49AM Adam: if you can't make out with him how are you going to date him
07:49AM Adam: we're busy people, don't waste your time!
07:49AM Lauren: ok mr. popular. listen...i already know all of this----:)
07:49AM Adam: haha smart ass
07:50AM Adam: then what's the problem
07:50AM Lauren: the whole letting him know about this problem.....is where it gets me.
07:50AM Lauren: what should i say?
07:50AM Lauren: like---"sorry i'm not attracted to you"
07:51AM Adam: just avoid it, i mean i don't know how serious you guys are, but don't hang out with him, kind of slowly eliminate contact
07:51AM Adam: thats what girls do to me
07:51AM Adam: it works
07:52AM Lauren: are you serious? you think that's the best plan? wow.
07:52AM Lauren: i thought you were going to say something like----"just tell him, he'll suck it up"
07:53AM Adam: not the best plan, it just avoids hurting his feelings and saves you from actually having a confrontation

So there you have it people. A boy that is suggesting that I be passive and non-confrontational. I've love your opinion about this. Obviously our conversation kept going but I was getting tired of highlighting the text and changing the color. If you were wondering---Adam is very cute and sits very close to me at work. He is one of the many boys that I have a office crush on. He happens to work in the same group as Matt, THE OC. Anyway----this is all beside the point. Dear readers, what do you suggest?! I this this stuff. I want to mention that Adam also pointed out that if we were sleeping together, which we're not, it would be a lot different. I agree with him though this small stuff keeps me up at night.

Ok---so now that I have written an serious/interesting/awesome post. I expect the same sort of comments.

Tonight I'm going to this gala thing with Bernadette at the Copa Cabana. Should be interesting and fun. And there is free booze and appetizers. *cha-ching!*

Happy Thursday!

Love,
Lauren